People often initiate relationships with bad habits when it comes to getting along with another person. They may have every intention of making a relationship work, but ingrained trends stop them from truly connecting.
Jealously plagues many otherwise healthy relationships. A boyfriend might always suspect his girlfriend of going around with other men. Or, it could be more subtle. A woman may suspect that her husband is always on the lookout for another female to take her place. In either case, the jealous partner may actually have nothing to worry about. This is when it starts to develop into nothing more than a bad habit.
Selective hearing is another issue that can often become a bad habit in a relationship. Some partners do not pay attention to the other’s needs. One partner will try to explain something that is important to them, and the other will nod and say, “yes, yes”, but will not really listen to what is a one-way conversation. Then, when the first partner says something the other is interested in, suddenly they are switched on and ready to take part in the conversation. This can create feelings of resentment, and is one of the many bad habits that can wear a couple down over time.
Relying on your partner
People can develop bad habits in long-term relationships if they depend too much on the other person. They can rely so much on their partner that they lose the ability to take care of themselves. A person in a relationship may become irresponsible at work because of it. They may feel that they are taken care of anyway, so it is not an issue.
Fighting can also be another problematic area. All healthy couples will disagree from time to time – it is natural and nothing to stress too much about. Where bad habits come into play is in the way in which arguments are conducted. One partner may have the habit of yelling at the top of their voice. Another might throw something at the other, or bring up old arguments to try and hurt the other’s feelings. These are not productive forms of disagreement.
Blaming comes with its own problems. This is a bad habit that will almost certainly erode a relationship if it goes on for too long. One person may be taking all the blame. In this case, that person’s self esteem can get to a very low point. Other times, people can blame each other. If this happens, the usual result is a disconnect between the two partners. They do not want to be involved with someone who does not accept responsibility.
If you want to have a long-term, happy and healthy relationship, you need to get rid of your bad habits immediately. The sooner you learn what steps you and your partner need to take to stay together, the better your bond will be.